Tuesday, September 30, 2014
Monday, September 29, 2014
+ That I could possibly fall in love more. I thought I was in love when we were dating, and then again when we got married. It's amazing how much a heart can grow when you spend every day together.
+ That your wedding is a beautiful, fabulous day and your honeymoon is literally paradise ... but then you come back and live totally normal, everyday lives together. There is so much more to marriage than your wedding and your honeymoon. The every day life lived after is the best part.
+ Sometimes my heart literally overflows with joy when I watch him genuinely laugh.
+ How did I not know the name of his childhood friend or how he loved the lunch lady in elementary school? I thought I knew everything about this man and yet, everyday I learn more.
+ That you literally have a partner in everything from your wedding day on out: money spending and saving, dreaming, moving across the country, making new friends, trying new restaurants, seeing movies, roadtripping, etc. It's so comforting knowing that I have a go-to person and he will always be my person.
+ That some nights would look like lying in bed, watching YouTube videos, and cracking up with laughter. It's so fun.
+ That I would ever need someone so much that I get frazzled when I have to make my own coffee in the morning or have to lay a pillow next to me all night when he's gone so I don't feel alone.
Now go say hi to Lauren, who co-wrote this post with me!
I love that I keep learning new things about Parker. We keep getting closer. We keep laughing more. Sure it's not always flowers and butterflies and a perfect little world, but I'm so thankful I have him in my life. What's something you learned or noticed after marriage that you didn't expect?!
Sunday, September 28, 2014
Thursday, September 25, 2014
This is a guest post written by Lindsay, of The Newlywed Notebook. She's fun, real, and I know this post will just make you want to be her friend. Enjoy!
Confession: my husband and I never really went through a "honeymoon" phase. The first 6 months of our marriage were not lived out in marital bliss. We didn't hold hands everywhere we went, and we didn't spend every waking, non-work moment together. In fact, there were more than a few times in that first year of our marriage which were quite the opposite. Let me illustrate just a few of them for you:
I can remember feeling very "frazzled" many nights that first year of marriage. I had just graduated with a degree in Elementary Education, and had decided during my final year of college that teaching was just about the last thing I wanted to do (good job Lindsay, I know). I was spending much of my days that first 6 months of marriage furiously applying for jobs, taking various classes online, and trying to figure out what the heck I was going to do with the next 40+ years of my life. There were many nights during that time when my husband would come home to papers all over the living room, laundry half sorted all over our bedroom, and dinner not yet started. This made me feel terrible because I knew I was home all day - I felt like I should have been providing my husband with a clean house and a hot meal. But it just wasn't happening no matter how hard I tried, and I know my frustrations and stress carried over onto my husband.
I can also remember going to bed many nights with hurt feelings because of something that was said, but not knowing how to express it, or if it was even worth bringing up. I vividly recall the first night we went to bed angry - the number one piece of marriage advice people tell you to NEVER do. I remember feeling like this was it, and that everything was going to be downhill from that point. I remember not knowing how to fix the situation, or who should be the first one to bring it up. I remember burnt dinners (twice in a night, on one occasion), bum fridges, and broken plumbing. Sometimes I look back on that first year of our marriage and wish that we would have experienced that "honeymoon" phase that you so often see on TV or read about in books. But you know what? Looking back, that first year of our marriage was real. Sure, some of it was messy. But a lot of it was really great and full of memories I will never forget like decorating our first apartment, buying our first big piece for furniture together, and searching for our first home.
So if I were to give you any advice today, it would be to let your marriage be real. Let it be an accurate reflection of you. Don't live your relationship based on how others think it should go or what they want to see from you. Sure, you won't always have all the answers and handle everything correctly, but that's OK. On those days, just know that I'm out there too trying my best to muddle through it all - and I'm pretty sure there are a few other wives out there who feel the exact same way as us. As long as you are trying to be caring and understanding towards your spouse, and working to meet their needs to the best of your ability, that's all you can do.
And hey, sometimes "messy" isn't so bad! Think a flirty food fight, getting caught in a summer rain, or doing some physical labor on your first home together. I think that if we just try our best to let the "good" messes outweigh the bad, we will all turn out just fine. Marriage (and life) can be messy and stressful and crazy, but it can also be beautiful and exciting and life changing - and isn't that what makes this whole ride worth taking?
Lindsay is the sole blogger and owner of The Newlywed Notebook. She enjoys sharing with her readers the everyday struggles and triumphs of newlywed life and the lessons learned along the way. Lindsay loves Starbucks coffee, window shopping, refurbishing unique finds for the home, and spending quality time with her extended family. When she’s not sitting in front of the computer, you can find her working on various home renovation projects with her husband or playing with their adorable puppy, Stella.
Wednesday, September 24, 2014
Tuesday, September 23, 2014
- If you had a blog what would you call it and what would it be about?
- If you could live inside any videogame, which would it be?
- Who is your best player on your fantasy football team this season?
- If you could play for any professional sports team, which would it be?
- What do you typically do with an hour of free time?
Monday, September 22, 2014
As bloggers, we completely open up online about our lives, friendships, favorite things, tough times we might be going through, and so so much more. Our readers support us each time they leave a nice comment or a tweet that makes us laugh hysterically. We read other blogs and completely connect with that person who's sitting on the other side of the computer completely pouring their heart out. It's kind of a weird thing if you think about it. And yet, we keep coming back to it - whether it's every single day or every single week, we continue to make our mark on the world wide web.
You know what's even weirder than this? Meeting that person whose ramblings you've been following. You've never met them in person or even heard their voice, and yet you know more about them than most of your coworkers or maybe even some of your friends. The first real conversation you have with them is not a normal introductory convo because you already know their husband's name and how many pets they have. You already know they just started a new job or love different nail polishes. So your conversation jumps right into the deeper stuff: you hear details about the new job. They ask about your new apartment because they already know you have found one. You talk about the struggles of some friendships, tough family issues, and (every so often) you talk blogging.
Let me just say that every single one of these women is beautiful: inside and out. They are kind, funny, and passionate about life. And I am so grateful to have been provided this weekend to meet them in person - even though I swear we were already besties.
Visit Grand Forks provided me with a free weekend trip. But all opinions in this post are my own.
The Grand Forks, ND Convention and Visitors Bureau organized a weekend for North Dakota bloggers, completely free of charge. We showed up, checked into a hotel, and got to know other ND bloggers throughout the weekend. There were quite a few different activities planned for us - like canoeing on the river and attending the art & wine walk downtown on Saturday. Considering drinking wine is one of my favorite activities, I had a lot of fun :)
We tried out a few different restaurants (there are links below each photo) and they were all absolutely fabulous. We talked blog, we talked life, and we talked about how we can collaborate or help each other out in the future. The spin class refueled my desire to feel exercise endorphins again - let's be honest, it's been awhile. And the only thing I spent money on all weekend was my almost-4-dollar coffee I grabbed before heading home.
My room @ the Staybridge Suites
Middle photo: Pamatini @ Fuji Japanese Steakhouse
Spin class @ Choice Health
Some of the festivities from the Art & Wine Walk
Canoeing along the Red River with Ground Up Adventures
That's the most fun weekend I've ever had for only spending $3.93. And I truly know that I have made some good friends as a result. This whole blogging thing is kind of weird, but I kind of like it. In the words of my husband, #bloglifeiskindaneat.
Friday, September 19, 2014
Wednesday, September 17, 2014
Have you realized yet that the first day of fall is in less than a week?! It's hard to believe. I feel like I was just embracing the 50-degree weather, breaking out the shorts, and getting pumped up for summer. It does seem like summer is always the season that flies by the fastest though - that's life I guess.
The changing seasons is one of my favorite parts about living where we do. Sure the month of January (read: basically the whole winter) can totally suck and be super cold. But I love when warm summer days turn into crisp, fall air. I even love the first snowfall of the year and the feeling of a cozy, winter evening inside. I know that if I ever moved to a different part of the country I would miss feeling the change of every season.
And I am ready to bring on fall!
Monday, September 15, 2014
Friday, September 12, 2014
Thursday, September 11, 2014
I'm not going to lie: In my eyes one of the best parts about fall is my favorite tv shows starting up again. I used to only have a few tv shows that I watched religiously. And by religiously, I mean they were recorded so I could watch on my own time and Parker knew not to even try to talk to me while I was watching. For example, he doesn't even dare speak if Gilmore Girls is on. What a good guy.
Then, this little amazing thing called Netflix came into my life and all of a sudden my Fall Must-Watch List is long. Like seriously, long. Not that there's anything wrong with long ;) But this list is going to be quite the commitment on my part. Thanks to Netflix, there are 3 new shows on this list that I wasn't
watching obsessed with last season. But I know I can do it; all I need to do is set my mind to it. And set my TiVo to record all these faves:
1 || Dancing With The Stars
Mondays @ 8/7c (Premieres September 15th)
This one is a give-in. I grew up dancing so how could I not watch a show all about movement, music, and expressing yourself through dance? Plus, I secretly wish I looked like those girls and got to wear those costumes. Don't we all?
2 || The Bachelor(ette)
Mondays @ 8/7c (Premieres January 2015)
I'm sure the next season (this winter) will be the most dramatic season yet! I can't help it. I guess it's a guilty pleasure or something.
3 || The Big Bang Theory
Mondays @ 8/7c (Premiers September 22nd)
I have my husband to thank for this one. He started watching on Netflix and now we own 2 seasons on DVD and our TiVo records the show every.single.time it's on whether it's new or old. knock-knock-knock Penny, knock-knock-knock Penny, knock-knock-knock Penny.
4 || Law & Order: SVU
Wednesdays @ 9/8c (Premieres September 24th)
Olivia is badass and I personally think the storyline keeps getting better and better. I miss Elliot, but I'm still obsessed. Also, this premiere is on mine & Parker's 4-year anniversary. Watching Olivia kick some butt sounds like a romantic end to the evening, yes?
5 || Grey's Anatomy
Thursdays @ 8/7c (Premieres September 25th)
Can't stop won't stop. I've watched this from the beginning and am still going at it. I think the story took a dip a few years ago but have really enjoyed the last 2 seasons. Plus, McDreamy is reason enough to tune in each week.
6 || Parenthood
Thursdays @ 10:30/9:30c (Premieres September 25th)
This one got 2 gifs so it's obviously my favorite. Fav.or.ite. I love every single character. I love every single episode. I laugh. I cry. I smile. I relate. There is absolutely nothing not to love. Except for the fact that this next season is possibly it's last? So many people love this show I don't think it should every stop. If the Bachelor can make it 19 seasons, so can Parenthood. Jeesh!
7 || Scandal
Thursdays @ 9/8c (Premieres September 25th)
Thank you Netflix, for this one. Olivia Pope rocks and all I want her to do is marry the President and live in the Vermont cabin. I'm a sucker for a good love story.
8 || The Biggest Loser
Thursdays @ 8/7c (Premieres September 11th -- tonight!)
I don't know what it is about watching XL people kick butt at losing weight but I just can't help myself. And I normally enjoy this one while eating ice cream and telling myself I'm going to the gym in the morning. If you're new to this show, make sure to have Kleenex available for the Season Finale. That's just one big sob-fest at our place.
9 || Last Man Standing
Fridays @ 8/7c (Premieres October 3rd)
I watched Home Improvement growing up and now I watch Last Man Standing. How could you not? It's an easy, 30-minute show about a man and his 3 daughters (which is a funny coincidence because he had 3 sons in Home Improvement). Plus, Parker will actually watch this one with me.
10 || Blue Bloods
Fridays @ 10/9c (Premieres September 26th)
You can't have a Fall TV Line-Up without a crime show in there. This one gives you the mystery and drama of a crime show series, but also the feel-good scenes of a family show. I just love the Reagan family.
11 || Revenge
Sundays @ 10/9c (Premieres September 28th)
Again, thank you Netflix. Season 4 premieres in 4 a few weeks and I haven't even finished Season 3 on Netflix yet. This one will reel you in from the very first episode. I love a good series that is mysterious, sexy, and easy-to-watch all at the same time. Emily Thorne, you are also badass.
For the record, it really bothers me that there are 11 shows on this list and not a nice, even, number of 10. Also, thank goodness for Tivo - that's all I've got to say. Looks like my Thursdays will be fairly busy. Don't expect great Friday blog posts :)
What will you be watching this fall?!
Tuesday, September 9, 2014
This summer I finally jumped on the maxi-dress-bandwagon even though they've been pretty popular for awhile now - clearly you can tell I'm totally up on all the latest fashion trends. not. But why did I not join in on this one sooner? I love the maxis that I finally bought and have worn them multiple times - there was only one time that I actually wore this one two days in a row. #sorrynotsorry
I actually wore this last weekend when Parker and I were apartment-shopping. I was going for a young, cute, but also professional-looking ensemble because I knew we might have to
ask beg for our lease to be less than 12 months. This is what happens when you forget to tell your husband about the young, cute, but also professional-looking vibe you would like the 2 of you to be giving off:
He told me he was giving off an ass-kicking vibe. He also told me that this whole taking-pictures-of-yourself thing is very narcissistic. I told him it's for the blog. #duh
I'm not sure if it was his vibe that worked or mine, but we did find an apartment! A 12-month lease seems to be required by most apartments in the area so that's the biggest thing I was worried about. We were hoping that when we move back in November we can be in an apartment for 6 months (ish) while we can be house-hunting so we really didn't want to get stuck in a 12-month lease. The landlord that we used to rent from before moving was willing to let us sign a 6-month lease. What a nice guy, huh? Once the 6 months are up it will be month-to-month so it will be very flexible - I don't think I could have asked for much better.
Plus, it's a two-bedroom apartment. Which means it also has 2 bathrooms and 2 closets! I think the 2 closets might possibly excite me even more than the 2 bedrooms - coming from a girl whose been sharing a small little closet with her husband for 2 years. Closet space is like primo real estate in my eyes. Anywho, I'm getting side-tracked. We found an apartment, I couldn't be more excited, and it's so nice to finally be able to picture a space when I day-dream about moving home!
Now let the packing begin. #ugh
Monday, September 8, 2014
I was pretty proud of myself for jumping in the lake both days to shower in the lake for the last time this year. The cooling air can cool the lake off pretty fast but it's not so bad once you go under the first time. I think my dad said the water temp was 69 degrees.
We also had our final trip to Zorbaz for lunch and a marg on the upper deck and we had our last moonlight pontoon cruise.
There's something about this place that just does it for me - it's relaxing, fun, peaceful ... everything. I feel different at the lake than I do anywhere else so it's always sad to see another season end. But I always remind myself that at the end of another sweet summertime season I am so lucky that I get to say, see ya next year.
Parker and I also had Friday off so we could look at some apartments for when we move (and have wine at lunch). We found an apartment! And I'm really excited - update coming tomorrow :) Also for the record, a table of 3 guys were laughing at the fact that I asked Parker to take this picture of me so not posting it on the blog was not an option #bloggerprobs