Wednesday, March 26, 2014

We don't allow ourselves to EMBRACE who we are

Or maybe this is just me? I certainly spend way too much time worrying about what other people think.

Something makes me happy but I don't want to brag about it. 

Something sounds fun but I worry it might make me look bad. 

That blouse is super cute but it's from an expensive store so people might think I have a lot of money. 

I totally want to go out to eat but people might stare if I'm in my yoga pants and uggs. 

Is this just me? If it is, help a sister out and tell me how to keep these thoughts from running through my mind. As I was thinking about writing this post two other posts that I've read recently also came to mind - Erin's and Ashten's.

We don't just embrace who we are. Not only do we worry way too much about what other people think, but I really think that we spend too many moments rationalizing our actions or putting ourselves down. 

For instance, we bought a new car last November (after I hit a deer and rolled my old one in the ditch) and we were able to buy a new Honda. If you do this, people will flat-out ask you if it's brand new and how many miles it had. It made me a little uncomfortable, honestly. So I caught myself answering with yes, but we found a really good deal. Or yes, but if we bought it brand new the interest rate was so much lower. You know what I should have answered with? Yes (big smile). I'm really happy.

Or think about this: how many times has someone given you a compliment on your looks, outfit, or hair and you respond with putting yourself down? I've done it a hundred times. People tell you they love your new dress or boots and you respond by telling them it looked way better on the manican or the boots were actually super cheap. I am guessing that a similar thing has probably happened to you with a new haircut, your purse, makeup, or anything else having to do with your appearance. Someone gives a compliment, which is meant to make us feel good, and it results in us degrading ourselves.

Now I don't know if this is a society-as-a-whole thing, a woman-thing, a 25-year-old-OCD-freak thing, or maybe it's just me - but I definitely think it's there. And I definitely want to be better about it. I don't want to be old and wrinkly someday and wish I'd let myself love my body in those skinny jeans or just had more fun.

If you went out last weekend do not worry about how you drank too much, savor the fun memories.
If you treat yourself to a new car, watch, or pair of shoes don't rationalize, use it every day and enjoy it.

If someone compliments you and you feel good about how you look, let yourself feel beautiful.
Life is way too short to worry about all that other stuff.

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